via Crunk Feminist: A B-Side to Dating While Feminist

Some interesting questions came up after a discussion on Chris Brown’s recent tantrum:

In a culture where sisters are dying in alarming numbers from domestic violence, what responsibility do I have to them and to myself to choose intimate partners whose thinking and actions are sound on these matters?

Doesn’t the fact that Friend and I had a civil and honest dialogue that ended amicably count for something? And if so, what does it count for?  Honest dialogues are feminist right?

How can I get next to you if I can’t get next to your politics?

How can I let you touch me if I wouldn’t touch your politics with a ten foot pole?

Can I feel safe in the softness of your touch if you don’t feel led to question a culture where other men routinely touch other women violently?

Can we really cuddle if you have the option to not care about women and violence?

Isn’t that choice, the choice to not care about how the world affects the woman you’re spending time with, a violent one?

How can I trust you to hold me when your beliefs hold me down?

Needless to say, some damn important questions.

The Crunk Feminist Collective is asking for feedback here.


One Response to via Crunk Feminist: A B-Side to Dating While Feminist

  1. Pingback: DUI: Dating Under The Influence of Feminism « The Rambling Feminist

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